Rereading my last blog from July last year brought back an emotion that was sad. Strangely to me this is like a diary of my feelings that I can’t always share with others, yet this is public. Few people read this or comment so it will just sit there in the ether. Somehow that doesn’t matter to me.
My life has changed since July with regards to my wonderful youngest grandson Monty. He has started school in a Welsh primary school in Ystalafera South Wales. My husband and I pick him up on Fridays and take him swimming before returning him home. It is a simple but wonderful routine that saves me from the abyss of depression. I don’t have as much contact with my other three grandchildren but still see them as holidays and birthdays allow. I’m always trying to find new ways to help my deep grief which hasn’t gone away. Feeling lonely yet in a marriage isn’t a new phenomenon but it’s very hard to change things when all you think about is the death of others and yourself. Very destructive Avenue of thought. So I’ve joined two yoga classes now and really like the teachers, young amazing women Rose and Becky. Becky is a new re acquaintance after 19 years – I taught her art. Both are deep thinkers. I finished a few months of art therapy before Christmas but had to do it on zoom as she lived in a very remote area. I couldn’t continue like that nor could I drive to her house. One thing she explained to me though was that my experience of Mum’s death was a traumatic experience which could be considered as PTSD as my memories are a reliving of that moment. Interesting thought. Yet they still keep happening and distressing me. I haven’t told the family about this.
I’m spending my weekends on my own in my chalet in Oxwich which sometimes is lonely but I need to be able to walk on the beach to heal myself. I join walks with a couple of groups of women and go sea dipping with them too. This is so good for me. I haven’t made any close friends yet but they are nice people. Their stories are amazing.
I’m still volunteering as a Samaritan which keeps me grounded when you need to help those who are in such distress. I’ve come a little way from that point so I know it’s possible.
And the drawing. I had a spell of not drawing or more sporadic drawing since Christmas but have returned since Easter and have gone out of my comfort zone making thoughtful patterns based on what I notice around me. I’ve finished the first side of a little concertina sketchbook so am working on the other side. I am enjoying it surprisingly- no shading just black lines!
We passed the first anniversary of my American friend Cathy’s death in January. I spoke to her daughter who had also lost her estranged father in that week too. A lot to take in. I met him when we visited. Alcoholic. Affected all their lives. I still can’t believe Cathy came over to visit me just before she was diagnosed with cancer and we had such a wonderful time together.
Now I’m off for a walk on the beach.
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